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3 Quick Ways To Determine If He's Worth A Second Date

So, you just had dinner at your favorite place or maybe at the new cafe at a corner for a safe situation (read: no longer than a three-hour commitment, in case it does not work out). The conversation was going so well and you seemed to click together, then he popped the question, “When can I see you again?”

Before you give him an answer, ask yourself these questions to check if he’s really worth a second date:

1.       Which boxes are you checking?

Everyone has a list (note: if you find yourself shaking your head from left to right, get a pen and paper and start listing what you want and don’t want in a partner and don’t go dating without it!). After the first date, mentally dish out your list and try to see if you are check the boxes of wants or the non-negotiable negative deal breakers.

Never settle for hot or charming over wan you know you want and need. For example, if smoking is a non-negotiable and he has a pack on his front pocket, enjoy the date but in the end, be cordial but firm enough to let him know that a second date’s not on the agenda.

2.       Do you want him to be just your friend?

When it comes to dating, it’s almost always assumed that it should lead to romance, which always forces the situation into something awkward. But sometimes, dates yield guys as friends too, and that’s really not a bad thing.

But if during the date, you genuinely feel comfortable sharing your thoughts and exchanging ideas with him like an old buddy, give it a second shot. Who knows what the friendship can bring? Plus the ease you felt is something that cannot be faked or manufactured and what better way to start a romantic relationship than an authentic foundation like friendship?

3.       Was he respectful?

There is a very good reason why it is always advised that how a date treats the waiter or the bartender is a great gauge of his character. It gives a great snapshot of how he was raised and what his values are. And no man, no matter how rich or handsome is worth anyone’s time for a second date if he is rude to staff members and if he belittles people.

If he can’t respect them, it’s only a matter of time before he disrespects you. Cut to the chase and leave him to the curb.

Leave your thoughts below and share with us your desirables and non-negotiables.

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